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Learn How To Apply The Five Love Languages:

I’m sure that you have heard of the five love languages. If not, I want to share a spark note quality reminder. As you read over the five love languages take time to evaluate your relationship with the following questions:

One of my favorite activities to engage in with my kids is the practice of showing appreciation or apologizing. I absolutely love hearing my daughter say thank her teacher or I’m sorry to her younger brother.

f you’re in a relationship, are you in love with your partner? Does he or she make you happy? If you answered yes to both questions, you’re fortunate indeed. But if you answered no to either one, there’s growing scientific evidence that staying in the relationship is the wrong decision–for you, for your partner, and even for your children, if any. 

Relationships are hard. Anyone who tells you they aren’t isn’t being honest with themselves. I am far from being an expert, but after almost ten years with my husband, I can tell you that I’ve learned a lot about fighting — fighting fair that is. It’s much easier to fight unfairly, using words like “always” and “never” that cut to the core. But I tell you using absolutes in a fight is never a good idea.

My husband is the best, but if there’s one thing he’s terrible at, it’s taking a compliment. He’ll try to downplay it, give someone else the credit. If all else fails, he just goes completely silent and blushes.

Now, I hate making him uncomfortable, but I want him to see how amazing he is and how much I appreciate him. So I changed my methods, and now he accepts compliments a lot better —  mostly. Have a difficult compliment-taker in your life? Here’s how to give them compliments.

Be Genuine

If you’re being fake, people can definitely tell, especially when they’re someone you’re really close to. They’re going to be able to see it in your eyes and hear it in your voice if you’re being sincere.

Try not to be extremely blunt, because that’s almost definitely going to make them uncomfortable. Instead, maybe offer them a chance to respond instead of sitting in silence or just saying thank you. This also shows genuine interest and that you want to know more about them. If you like their shirt, ask where they got it. If they wrote an awesome story or paper, ask where they got the idea or why they chose that topic.

If I see my husband looking especially nice for work that day, I say he looks sharp and ask him if something important is happening. This lets him talk about work a bit instead of just focusing on the compliment and not knowing what to say, but I still get to tell him he’s looking good.

Be Positive Around Them

If you’re constantly putting other people down behind their backs, people are going to be less likely to believe your compliments. If I came home to my husband all the time and talked about how terrible my friends or coworkers were that day, he’d never believe anything positive I told him.